As we progress to narcissism, however, egocentrism becomes much more complex and problematic. In egocentrism, you’re unable to see someone else’s point of view; but in narcissism, you see that view but not care about it. People high in narcissism may even become annoyed when others fail to see things their way.
Narcissists are bred, not born, into their behaviors. Let’s take the example of people who are late in situations. The latecomers can see, from their own point of view, why they’re late: traffic was bad, they had one last email to answer… Over time, they may start to experience some benefits from their tardiness which will eventually strengthen their tendency to be late. This is how the narcissistic tendency to be late can develop. Like the actor occupy the center stage in the middle of a crowded scene, the latecomer becomes the center of everyone’s attention.
Though people may feel resentful, no one wants to express their annoyance openly. The boss who arrives five minutes late will do his grand entrance and none of the employees can complain out loud about this, so the boss finds no reason to change and he/she may show up even later for the next meeting.
It’s very easy to slip from ordinary egocentrism to narcissism, no complains and they get the reward of drawing everyone’s attention. The problem is exaggerated among people who gradually acquire public recognition, particularly prone to taking on narcissistic tendencies. If they don’t remain grounded they will become victim to the narcissistic bubble in which they lose their sense of accountability for their behavior.
What’s going on inside the mind, and emotions, of entitled narcissists? They may not even be aware of the resentment they’re creating among their nearest and dearest. At the same time, as their narcissism progresses, they could become more and more dependent on having that position in the spotlight.
Ordinary people who’ve developed the entitled form of narcissism become dominated by the need to be recognized. They insist on receiving special treatment and reject people who they feel get in their way.