Narcissism VS Egocentrism

Narcissism VS Egocentrism

Posted by Ego7 | 7 marzo 2017

 

We see the world from the inside out, isn’t it? We all are a bit self-centered, it is the natural restriction on our perception caused by the simple fact that we can only see the world from our perspective and it takes special effort to see the world from any other angle. The technical term for this is “egocentrism.”.  The basic egocentrism built into our cognitive apparatus is of different types and it evolves with age.

COGNITIVE

 

Young children seem cognitively unable to take the perspective of another person. This fact, incidentally, makes them easy to beat at a two-person perspective game. As they can’t imagine what the board looks like to you, they will make mistakes caused by their assumptions that you see what they see.

We all grow out of this stage but sometimes it can be difficult to overcome completely the cognitive type of egocentrism. For instance, consider something as basic as preparing a pot of coffee, hammering in a nail or imagine something more complex such as saving a computer document, whatever the task, imagine that your job is to tell someone how to do it. Most people find it very difficult to take on the perspective of someone who knows absolutely nothing about this well-mastered ability and try to teach it to anyone else.

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IMMAGINARY AUDIENCE 

 

Another form of egocentrism, one that is particularly strong in adolescence, is the imaginary audience, which is teen’s tendency to envision how friends would react to each of his or her action.

The bad news is that we don’t ever completely outgrow the this youthful form of egocentrism. Like the embarrassment and the feeling that everyone is looking at you when you take up a new sport or decide to start learning how to dance…

 

What you fail to recognize is that everyone else feels equally awkward and embarrassed.

 

 

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As we progress to narcissism, however, egocentrism becomes much more complex and problematic. In egocentrism, you’re unable to see someone else’s point of view; but in narcissism, you see that view but not care about it. People high in narcissism may even become annoyed when others fail to see things their way.

Narcissists are bred, not born, into their behaviors. Let’s take the example of people who are late in situations. The latecomers can see, from their own point of view, why they’re late: traffic was bad, they had one last email to answer… Over time, they may start to experience some benefits from their tardiness which will eventually strengthen their tendency to be late. This is how the narcissistic tendency to be late can develop. Like the actor occupy the center stage in the middle of a crowded scene, the latecomer becomes the center of everyone’s attention.

Though people may feel resentful, no one wants to express their annoyance openly. The boss who arrives five minutes late will do his grand entrance and none of the employees can complain out loud about this, so the boss finds no reason to change and he/she may show up even later for the next meeting.

It’s very easy to slip from ordinary egocentrism to narcissism, no complains and they get the reward of drawing everyone’s attention. The problem is exaggerated among people who gradually acquire public recognition, particularly prone to taking on narcissistic tendencies. If they don’t remain grounded they will become victim to the narcissistic bubble in which they lose their sense of accountability for their behavior.

What’s going on inside the mind, and emotions, of entitled narcissists? They may not even be aware of the resentment they’re creating among their nearest and dearest. At the same time, as their narcissism progresses, they could become more and more dependent on having that position in the spotlight.

Ordinary people who’ve developed the entitled form of narcissism become dominated by the need to be recognized. They insist on receiving special treatment and reject people who they feel get in their way.

Don’t let egocentrism get out of control, no matter where you are on the egocentrism-narcissism dimension, you can pull yourself back on track:

  1. Check out how other people feel by putting yourself in their place, you can broaden your perspective to see from the outside in.
  2. Build up your inner sense of self.  Don’t let your self-definition become too dependent on receiving attention from others.
  3. Consider that, in reality, most people are just as concerned about themselves as they are about you. 
  4. Practice counter-egocentrism. Test out your abilities to take another person’s point of view, read over your e-mails before you send them, try to explain the task in question to someone who’s never attempted it.

 

Finally you should live more healthily and independently based on a more solid and internally based sense of self. 

THIS IS THE JOURNEY TO YOUR EGO

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